Debunking Self-Care Taboos

Debunking Self-Care Taboos

Self-Care is something I not always did.  I thought it was time-consuming, expensive, and quite frankly not for me.  I thought I was being a good mom by “putting my kids first” and neglected myself quite a bit. 


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Let’s start by asking what is Self-Care exactly? It is simple really, self-care is essentially taking care of ourselves - including but not limited to giving ourselves grace, forgiving ourselves and doing things we enjoy – just for our enjoyment


In essence, self-care is anything we deliberately do (or refrain from doing) with our own well-being in mind. 


With that said, there are still taboos about Self-Care and I want to debunk them in this blog post.  


Taboo #1 - Self-Care is an expensive luxury. 


Debunked: The truth is, self-care does not have to be expensive.  While there might be some activities that might result in spending money - like going to a luxury spa or something of that sort, the truth is we can do simple, inexpensive things.  Here are a few examples: 

  • Give yourself a spa manicure

  • Try a new face-mask 

  • Listen to soft music while you relax for a bit

  • Practice mindful meditation

Check out this blog post for more ideas. 


Taboo #2 - Self-Care is time-consuming

Debunked: You can spend 20 minutes having some “me-time” while you

  • Drink your cup of coffee

  • Read a poem

  • Read the Word of God

  • Do your face mask

  • Resting

  • Take a power-nap


Taboo #3 - Sef-Care is for women only - it is not for guys

Debunked - I recognize self-care is primarily targeted for women but the truth is guys need their self-care time too! They need the time to recharge and fill their cups as well as we do.  Now, while they might not want to try a manicure or a face mask, they can do things they like and recharge their batteries like that.  Some examples are: 

  • Going on a bike ride

  • Going on a hike

  • Getting a nice shave from a barber

  • There are exceptional essential oils that men can use instead of cologne such as Cedarwood, Northern Lights Black Spruce & Shutran, among others. 


Taboo #4 - Self-Care is for women who have no kids

Debunked: Ok, so this was my excuse.  I thought that because I was a mom, self-care was not for me.  I thought my kids need me and it would be selfish of me to take care of my self and not them.  The truth is you can do both.  I am convinced that we can be better moms when we take care of ourselves, focus on our needs first so we can then meet our children’s needs as well.  


There is no excuse to not practice self-care, especially in this day and age.  We must take time to focus on ourselves.  It is not selfish, it is not bad - It is a necessity. 

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